Jesus said, "Let the
children come to me and do not stop them, because the Kingdom of heaven belongs
to such as these." Matthew
19:14
A friend read my
blog and suggested that I start blogging again. I asked her what I should blog about. She said she wanted to know what the field of
immigration would look like after the quarantine. I answered truthfully: “I have no idea.” Our lives in a pandemic were as uncertain now
as they had ever been. So many people we
knew, seemingly healthy a month or two ago when we last had any contact with
them, were now dead or in comas. Family
members, who had been seemingly healthy a few weeks before, would catch a dry
cough and fever and all of the sudden jump off a cliff of rapid deterioration
where they had trouble breathing and would then find themselves in the scramble
for a test or a ventilator to breathe. The
lucky ones survived and developed an uncertain immunity. The rest were induced into comas or died
alone, only to be accompanied by the hospital staff and possibly one or two
family members who could risk contamination through physical proximity. In the flurry of unexpected death, sons and daughters
were not even able to share a last hug, “I love you” or say good-bye. And because we were in quarantine and could
not hold gatherings larger than 10 people, loved ones were forced to bid their
last farewells on funerals telecast through social media.
As for the rest of us,
all we could do was hole up in our homes as helpless bystanders and watch, our
own lives a game of Russian roulette every time we stepped outside our
homes. I walked Huey three times a day
and on every walk, he is relentlessly dragged into the middle of the street on
several occasions, when confronted with another approaching pedestrian. By now, most people have their faces covered
with masks and scarves, but it is only the careless few who wander freely
through the streets, giving us all an insight to the indifference in their
own lives while risking all of ours.
Yesterday, I bent down for a split second to fix the Velcro on Huey’s
shoe, and by the time I bent down, it was too late, a man I had caught in the
corner of my eye and had wrongly estimated would go another direction, made a
quick turn and was now passing by me and my dog in close proximity.
Both Huey and I were
geared up, him with his raincoat and rubber dog shoes and I with my baseball
cap, surgical mask, a glove and a rag dipped in bleach. However, the man had a mask dangling off his
chin, something he surely pulled down with his germ-contaminated hands so that
he could be actively smoking while he
walked by. This type of cavalier
indifference in the face of a nasty virus that filled your lungs up with fluid
and literally asphyxiated you to death, had become scarier than any potential
mugging, rape or robbery. I crouched
down towards the ground for the excruciating moment when he walked by, praying
that he would not cough or sneeze.
However, while I kept my face down, hovered over my dog, he turned and
looked at us and said, “cute dog.” I
panicked, wondering about what potential droplets he might have released into
the air and washed over me and which one of these droplets had gotten my cap or
worse, a little section of my hair that was sticking out of the back of my
cap. I said nothing back to him but ran
home and took a hot shower, thinking about this man, already imagining that he
was an asymptomatic carrier, trying to kill people with once-innocuous
compliments.
So, yes. Things are a little different from four years
ago. From a month ago! I left my firm a few months ago, at the end
of August to be exact. I’ve been picking
up cases as a per diem, of-counsel.
Everything seemed to be going really well. I even made new attorney friends and it felt
like we had formulated some unspoken, remote law firm. Dues had been paid and every day I was tired,
somewhat surprised, but happy. I was in
court almost every day, picking up different hearings, assignments, appeals and
briefs that I believed in or felt were interesting to me. And because I cared nothing about marketing
or making a name for myself, I could work from home, keep the costs low and
rely on the connections I had made practicing at the firm for the past four
years. The results were job satisfaction
and a sense of liberation.
When quarantine struck,
I even considered myself lucky even though I had no income and could not even
apply for unemployment. But God was
everywhere and he was providing. The
quarantine hit right before I had planned to not work and take a vacation
anyway (a trip to California that I had to cancel lest, I pick up the virus on
the plane or the airport), and somewhere and somehow, I would be provided
for. Money would turn up in places I
hadn’t expected. I had a cushion. And quarantine forced all of us to save money
as going out for anything but your groceries and for the brave few, take-out or
delivery, was not an option. Every
morning, I slept all that I needed and would wake up and meditate, pray and
read my Bible. God spoke to me and I saw
his presence everywhere, in the news, around the world, in the animals that
were seizing this opportunity to play boldly in once-contaminated waters and
forget the deathly fears we had instilled in them. While the virus literally and figuratively
asphyxiated us in our lungs and homes, wildlife was able to, at long last, have
a moment to breathe.
And all of this in the
midst of news of death and loss on a daily basis. “Guys, my grandma’s in the hospital…,” “Oh, so-and-so is in a coma…,” “Guys, I found out that so-and-so was
quarantined in his basement and never woke up this morning….” We were becoming accustomed to the frequency
of this news, coupled with the inability to really process any of it before it
would strike again. We grieved with our
friends who still reeled from unexpected loss, almost disappearance. I pondered over the gaping holes that were
thrust upon their lives, praying for my own family’s well-being on a daily
basis, calling and video-conferencing with them more than I ever had before,
gripped with fear that tomorrow too, their ticket might be up.
All this quarantine,
death and surprise also makes me think about my friend Rachel a lot and what
she told us about dying, a few weeks ago, before this quarantine started. Rachel was an attorney friend that I met in
New York City through her best friend and a co-worker at my firm, Christina. She was larger-than-life and hilarious, and
at 33 years old, was traveling the world, about to marry her English fiancé,
Dan, and then was suddenly hit with a diagnosis of very late-stage cancer that
same year. For three years, she tried to
live her life in New York City as normal as she could through chemo, surgery
and various trials which were being tested on cancer patients. She soldiered through as best she could,
working remotely and always trying to make sure the people around her were okay
with her diagnosis, always trying to look and be her best as to remind the
people around her that she was not her cancer and still very much present as
who she actually was. However, in November of 2018, she took a turn
for the worse, was hospitalized, and passed on January 6, 2019.
Before she passed,
there was an unspoken agreement that even in the dying hopes that she would
make it, that if she didn’t, she would still be ever present in our lives and
communicate. In so many ways, she has
already made herself known to us, in times of sadness, need, surprise. But by now a year had passed and Christina,
another friend Ashley and I were now ready to have an actual conversation with
her. So on a beautiful Saturday
afternoon in early March, I hiked to Brooklyn that day to have brunch with friends
and then head over to Christina’s apartment.
My friend Ashley drove down from Ithaca to join us. All of us, in some shape or form, had been
there with Rachel at the end. Ashley and
I both showed up at the same time, and by the time we called Melanie in
Buffalo, Rachel was also there in full force.
At that moment, we were still oblivious to the pandemic that would take
over all of our lives just a few weeks later, but what she said to us that day
has given me so much comfort when thinking about everyone who is being called
early and unexpectedly.
Melanie Rimkus is a
psychic medium from Buffalo, New York.
When Ashley was nine-years old, she was living with her mother and went
to spend the weekend with her dad. On
that Saturday, she had a bad feeling about something so while on the phone with
her mom, she forced her mom to say “I love you” simultaneously with her and had
her mom hang up the phone instead of actually
say the words “good-bye.” That night,
her mother died abruptly of an epileptic seizure that caused her to have a
heart attack. Ashley was then forced to
live with her abusive father for years while her mother’s family fought
unsuccessfully for custody of her. The
day she turned 18, she fled her father’s home, never looking back, leaving all
her belongings in her room, and went to live with her mother’s family in
Buffalo, my hometown and where I met her.
In the beginnings of our friendship a few years back, she had always
mentioned to me that she still communicated with her mother through a medium
but I had no need or greater interest in the subject matter at the time.
However, over a year
ago, Ashley made an impromptu trip to New York City and it happened to be my
birthday as well. We went out for dinner
and she stayed over. At that time, her
and her boyfriend were about to be engaged and were looking for a ring. She told me all about how they had gone to a
festival in Lily Dale, a famous village of psychic mediums, about an hour from
Buffalo. She told me of the personal
readings and group activities that were offered. She said that on one of the last days, her
boyfriend and her joined a group reading because it was one of the more
affordable activities. The psychic went
around the little group, holding every person’s hand and just reading the
energy off of them. It was pretty happy
and light-hearted and when she held Ashley’s hand, she said to her, “Oh, your
mom is here, she’s wrapping gifts and she’s very happy about your
engagement…”
Then it was Ashley’s
boyfriend’s turn. As soon as the psychic
got to him, her face fell and a sadness came over her. She said, “okay, well, it’s taking a minute
for her to come over…but your mother is here.”
But that moment was fleeting as the psychic then proceeded to say,
“okay, she’s leaving now and an elderly, male figure is coming in and telling
me that your mom wants you to do this in private.” After the session, the psychic approached them
separately, grabbed Ashley’s boyfriend by the arm crying and said, “Your mom
told me what she did, come see me privately.”
Ashley’s boyfriend’s mother had also died when he was young. He had known it was a suicide. But what he didn’t know most of his life and
found out only about a year prior to that day was that she had ended her
own life in a very non-forgiving and brutal way. The only other person who had died in his
family had been his grandfather on his father’s side.
However, Ashley found
out about Melanie, a local medium, around October of 2014. Since then, Ashley has gone to Melanie to
communicate with her mom and accurately convey and interpret certain events
that were to happen or were already happening in Ashley’s life. I met Melanie a little over a year ago when I
took my friend Grace from my firm in NYC to Buffalo. Grace had also just lost her mother a few
months prior. I could tell she was
struggling with the loss of her mother so I asked if she wanted to come home
with me to Buffalo and try to contact her.
She said “yes” because she missed her mother but also said that due to
some traumatic experiences with the occult in Puerto Rico when she was a child,
her mother would “hate it.” I said,
“let’s try, you want to talk to her, I know someone,” thinking of Ashley and
her experiences with Melanie. We went
and I met Melanie for the first time with Grace.
Melanie
is a middle-aged, jovial, and unassuming woman.
There are no theatrics about her and when you walk into her office, the
first impression you get is modern-day spa.
She wears normal clothes, has short hair and glasses and if you saw her
walking in the grocery store or the mall, you would never peg her for a
non-local. She has a husband and kids
and at the time I was scheduling my call with her in March of this year, she
said that the only conflict she had on a Saturday was taking her kids to the
museum.
The only thing that possibly
might be different about Melanie is her energy when you go near her. She is warm, you feel empathy but at the same
time, there’s a quirkiness that I want to describe as indifference, but not a
cold indifference, just unaffected, equanimeous but super friendly at the same
time. When we walked into Grace’s
appointment, she gave us both hugs and I explained the situation, that Grace’s
mother had passed a few months ago and we wanted to see if Grace could talk to
her for some comfort. However, we also
let her know Grace’s reservations, that her family was against these types of
things, essentially, that Grace was hesitant and scared. So scared in fact, that Grace wanted me to do
the reading with her.
Melanie nodded in
comprehension and said she was fine with a joint reading as long as we
understood that wires might get crossed and some messages might come for me and
some for Grace, and she might not always be able to tell whose message was for
who. We had already come to the point of
no return so we said sure. During that
reading, she began to describe the first person that appeared: “there’s an
older lady here, she is bent over and has a hunchback.” My grandmother. “She’s here with another older man.” My
grandfather. My grandparents on my
father’s side. From Taiwan. They are the closest relatives that have who have more recently crossed. They have only been to the
United States once or twice, but it was so long ago that I can’t even
remember. They lived their whole lives in
Taiwan and died there. I only have one
developed photo of them and it’s sitting on my desk in New York City in a frame. The last time I saw them was in 2010, on my
last visit to Taiwan, but I never went back and they had both passed
since.
“She is showing me
money. Did you get some money
recently?” Surprised, I answered “yes,”
recalling a conversation my father had with me just a few weeks before, telling
me that they had left me some money and that I would be able to receive it in
the near future. Melanie continued,
“okay, they are telling me that this is going to help you be pushed forward…I
don’t know exactly what that means but that’s what they are saying.” I just said, “okay.” (Fast forward more than a year later and the
money came through, just as I decided to leave my firm.) On Grace’s side, her mother never
showed. Melanie explained, “I’m sorry,
sometimes they don’t come for various reasons.
It could be because she doesn’t vibe with me,” and shrugged. But, Grace’s grandfather came through and
Melanie said, “he has a message for someone with the same name in your
family.” Grace laughed and said, “ugh,
it’s for my Tío Junior…he’s so messed up I don’t even want to talk about
him...” and shut down any further lines of inquiry. Afterwards, I apologized to Grace, telling
her that I was sorry that her mother had not shown up. She said, “that’s okay Tina, she would have
hated me doing this anyway.” So, I guess
in a way, her mom did make her statement.
Fast forward to the end
of 2018. Rachel’s health is rapidly
declining, her burning desire to survive coming up against a tsunami of cancer
that was rapidly spreading throughout her vital organs and body. Rachel fought and fought, putting her already
weakened body through even more turmoil as she resisted and resisted. Part of this resistance, however, was fear,
because she did not know what lay ahead if she died. Rachel was an empath. There were still so many people she still
wanted to help, so many things that she wanted to do still. How could she do this in death? This is where I felt I could help. Calling on Ashley and Melanie, I could help Rachel
prepare for what very well might be, what lied ahead.
Ashley is obsessed with
this topic, the afterlife. She does
research, incorporating all her experiences with the many times her mom and
another friend of hers who died young of cancer have contacted her. One time, she met her mother in a dream. Her mother was beautiful, Ashley said, she
looked like the best version of herself and she stood in front of a house,
gardening. Ashley said that all she
could feel was absolute peace, an absolute lack of a sense of time and any
mundane worry or stress that she might have had was just not there. Ashley begged her mother to let her stay
in this place with her, but her mother simply told her that it wasn’t her time
yet, that she still had things to do.
And just like that, Ashley woke up in the physical world with all its
burdens, snatched from the overwhelming sensation of peace and serenity that she
had felt in her dream.
So at the end of 2018,
I had Ashley meet Rachel through the phone and began telling her about the
afterlife and her long-time experiences with it. She told Rachel that the afterlife did not mean
that it would be over. That she would
live on in an even better place. We put
Rachel in contact with Melanie who did a reading over the phone with Rachel. The first person who came through was
Rachel’s grandfather, Larry, whom she had been very close to. Melanie asked Rachel: “Why does your grandfather keep showing me
dimes?” Rachel answered, “oh, that’s
because my grandmother used to be a waitress.
My grandfather would go eat at the restaurant where she worked all the
time and leave her a dime as a tip.”
Rachel told me this story in the hospital and on my way out while
waiting for the elevator at Mount Sinai,
a dime literally fell out of my jacket pocket. Melanie also told Rachel that she saw her fully
recovered with her family in Fargo, North Dakota (her hometown). Also, during Rachel’s reading, a hummingbird
flew into Melanie’s house.
Right after she died in
early January this year, Ashley told me
randomly on the phone, “you know what I was thinking the other day, Tina. I was thinking that I hoped Rachel sent us
dimes whenever she wanted us to know when she was around.” (It should be noted that, when Ashley said this to me, she knew nothing of
the story of Rachel’s grandfather or the dimes.
And yes, dimes will randomly appear in the most extraordinary times and
places, whenever we think about Rachel or ask her to make herself known.) There is no room in this blog to recount the countless
times Rachel has appeared to us since she has passed, through dimes and
hummingbirds or other even grander gestures but some of them are worth telling because they were just so, her.
For example, she sent a
Beatle once to her English husband at the airport when he was traveling back to
England from her memorial in North Dakota.
Yes, at the fancy waiting lounge at the airport, her husband bumped into
Paul McCartney himself, whom, as it
turns out, has also lost a wife to cancer and not only began consoling Rachel’s
husband, but also told him that just like Rachel, his wife’s ashes were spread
in not only England but randomly, Arizona as well. Before Rachel died, we tried to get her to a cancer
retreat in Sedona, Arizona. She never
made it but her ashes are spread there, in England where her husband is from
and in her hometown in Fargo, North Dakota.
Christina, Rachel’s best friend and I laugh about this. Because in true British form, he had been the
biggest skeptic out of all of us, in all of this “signs and afterlife” nonsense so
obviously, Rachel had to go a little bigger with him.
Rachel was also a
hilarious prankster who would never want us to be sad about her passing. Right after she passed in New York City, her
closest friends and family were walking around NYC, visiting some of her
favorite places. They walked into a
church she loved where a young choir was singing an angelic hymn. Rachel’s mother couldn’t take it anymore and
broke down crying in the back. Right in
that moment, the angelic hymn the choir was singing ended abruptly and instead,
they broke out in, “OH WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH A DRUNKEN SAILOR…WHAT WOULD YOU
DO WITH A DRUNKEN SAILOR…WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH A DRUNKEN
SAILOR…EARLLLLLLIIIEEE IN THE MORNING????”
Pure Raquel. In the hospital a few weeks before she passed. |
On her one-year
crossing anniversary, it was a Monday night and Christina and I decided to have
dinner at Rachel’s favorite restaurant in lower Manhattan, Rubirosa, and have a drink in her honor. We both
painted our nails in the bright red color Rachel loved, we call it “Rachel’s Red.” We knew that she would be there. But what we didn’t expect were the
pranks. I don’t know why this was
unexpected but when they started happening, I got a little scared. On that day, Christina’s mom in Fargo
randomly got pulled over by the police.
On the way to the restaurant from work in Manhattan, Christina’s cab got pulled over by the police. By the time Christina was texting me this, I
was getting out of the subway station and started to freak out a little. I tightly clutched my bag and checked all the cracks in
the sidewalk on the way to the restaurant.
“Raquel,” I muttered under my
breath, “you seriously better not fuck with me.” I made it to the restaurant unscathed.
Christina and I sat at
the bar, ordering pasta, pizza and a salad.
I had a beer, we had a Prosecco (Rachel’s drink) in her honor and we
asked the bartender to make us a tiny cocktail in Rachel’s honor with a
prosecco base. Three drinks. Granted, I am not a big drinker but I do the
occasional happy hour with friends and can handle three drinks. I should be tipsy, yes, but not wasted,
especially if we are simultaneously carb loading. But somehow, I was wasted. I didn’t even notice until the end when I
could barely walk back to the bar from the bathroom, how wasted I was. Christina walked out of there fine and I was
wasted. How could this be, I
thought? As soon as we walked outside, I
spotted some chairs across the street, stumbled towards them to sit down, and
then proceeded to bend my head over between my legs, and puke all over the
sidewalk. A black dude on his bike
standing in front of me looked at me with disgust and said, “UGH, WHY would you
do that there?” Christina just laughed
and laughed and slowly walked away with our leftovers. That bitch got me. And funny enough, by the time I got home an
hour later on the train, I was fine.
So on the afternoon of
Saturday, March 6, 2020, Christina, Ashley and I convened in Christina’s
apartment in Brooklyn with Melanie on the phone from Buffalo at 4:30pm. When we got on the phone with Melanie, she
told us more or less that Rachel had been making herself known for over an hour
already but Melanie was pretty much ignoring her nonetheless because it wasn’t
time for our call yet. The first thing
we did was “validation” where Melanie said that she would confirm her presence
for us. Then slowly but surely, through
the phone, Melanie began to describe the room around us, from the kitchen
island to the snacks that were on the table.
She described the shirt that Christina’s three-year old son was wearing that day,
who, by that time, had gone to the second floor of their building to play with
her husband.
Melanie started by
saying things that we pretty much already knew, that Rachel loved us, that she
was always watching over us. Then Rachel
told us something we hadn’t expected, that she had met Ashley’s mom and that
she had “known her before.” Then Melanie started with a series of questions to Christina, who had grown up with Rachel
and knew her family the best. “Rachel is
telling me that she loves that you guys made some type of doll from her old
rags…is there something like this?”
Christina said, “yes, they made a doll out of her old clothes for
Rachel’s young niece, Adley.” Melanie
continued, “She’s also talking about a lake where you scattered her ashes. She says she loves being scattered there, that
she “sparkles” there…” Christina also
confirmed, yes, that they scattered her ashes in one of Rachel’s favorite lakes
in North Dakota.
Rachel wanted to let us
know that she was okay. Then Ashley
asked what it was like to cross over. Rachel
answered that once your physical body dies, it’s immediate, quick, and was like
a vapor, there’s no pain. But then she proceeded
to tell us that it was “amazing” and “beautiful” and even how great the weather was over
there! And then she made a point to tell us twice, almost in
surprise, that there were so many kids running around there and that this made
that amazing and beautiful place, oh so very sweet.
The session lasted an
hour and was mostly about our three separate lives as we conversed with Rachel
about her observations. I can assure you
that it was full of things we wanted to and did not want to hear, as it should
have been from a friend who cared about us.
In this conversation, I asked if she had been at Rubirosa on her one
year and Melanie laughed, “yeah, that was her.”
At one point, Christina and I began to dominate the conversation with
Rachel and Ashley sighed and mouthed in a whisper, “I want to ask
something.” Almost immediately, Melanie
paused and said, “Rachel is saying that Ashley is feeling left out.” Somewhere in the conversation, Rachel also
told Christina to “watch out for her lung
health.”
After our phone
session, I can say that I was a little disappointed. Not because I questioned whether we had been
talking to Rachel or not but honestly, because I thought she would
care a little more, intervene a little more, make things go more the way I
would want them to be. But she honestly
seemed to be too caught up and preoccupied with how amazing it was in the place
that she was to be burdened or even bothered with our worldly minutiae. But she had shown up for the bigger events to
slap us in the face when we needed to and of course, prank us because that’s important. But my favorite part about the conversation was
what she said about the children. After a lifetime of pondering the world's sufferings and what type of place we were leaving for the most vulnerable ones we loved, it still gives me great relief to know
that the children who did not make it or were dying senselessly, ended up in such a
beautiful place and were running around.
Afterward, Christina,
Ashley and I hung out a little more until Christina’s husband came back with
the kids. Ashley and I decided to head
out to dinner at Rubirosa’s. Christina
could not come but she warned us that we would never get a table after 6pm on a
Saturday night. We headed over
anyway. I showed Ashley the place I
threw up across the street. By the time
we got to the restaurant, a little crowd had formed outside the restaurant. We made our way inside to the hostess podium, hoping for the best. Ashley, who had driven in from Ithaca just a few hours
prior, was starving. However, when we
approached the hostess, she told us that there were over 100 people on the
waiting list for table seating and
the bar and the option was that we could come back in over an hour to see where
we might be on this 100+ person list. We
were at a brief loss for a minute until miraculously, the hostess turned to us
and said, “actually, I can seat you at the bar right now.” We both thanked Rachel and had a prosecco in
her honor. But just one because my
drinking trust with her was broken.
In my case, Melanie
gets some things wrong about future predictions although they have always been
right for Ashley. However, I’ve never
gotten a reading alone, always with other people. So who knows if the messages get muddled? However, when it comes to our loved ones who
have died, wherever they are, it’s always been very right, vivid and
clear. Christina and I have discussed
what Melanie told Rachel, about how she saw her perfectly cured in North
Dakota. She could have been just totally
wrong in prediction, however, perfectly right in what she saw. Maybe she saw Rachel’s spirit there, watching
over her family? Ashley did say that
spirits where they are, look like the best versions of themselves. In her last days and right before she passed,
Rachel lost all ability to communicate and was unrecognizable as her body
became bloated from disease. Of course she would not look like that after death.
Rachel’s mother tells us that right after she died, in the deluge of
condolence texts and communication, Rachel’s mother fell asleep and woke up to
find a text response sent out to her previous mother-in-law that she herself
did not write. And it was odd, it said,
“Hi Erna! Thanks! Ugh, I’m just so glad that
that yucky stuff is gone now.”
So, here we are. In plain pandemic where death comes randomly
knocking and some of us are forced to answer swiftly and too soon while our
family members are left bewildered to deal with its ugly aftermath. No, it’s not exactly WWI trench warfare or of
the dark magnitude and scale of previous pandemics in the past century. But it becomes the biggest threat because it
is our tragedy, affecting us and the lives we thought we were going to have and
who would be with us as we lived them.
However, in all of this, these experiences with Melanie, Rachel and my
friends bring me a lot of comfort and make me revisit my fears and wonderings
about death, fate and all of their unknowns.
Because seriously, who should feel sorry for who? Are we to feel sorry for them that cannot be
with us in the physical or are they to feel sorry for us, who are stuck here
slogging through this life, trying to fulfill our earthly destinies, fearful of
the guy who tells you how cute your dog is?
Or fearful of the next wave of pandemic?
Or asteroid? Or famine? Or war? Or fearful of what future lies ahead for all the
children in our lives that we so deeply love?
Rachel did not want to
die at 36. She wanted to do so many
things, love so many more people, help them.
She worried about her family who, over a year later, still reel from the
big, gaping hole of her absence. Nobody
should have to endure the loss of their child.
We want to hug her, hear her voice, laugh with her. But she’s still with us and afterwards,
Christina met a shaman in Arizona when they scattered her ashes there who told
her that Rachel was: (1) with another girl from Fargo who had passed shortly
after Rachel died; and (2) wanted us to know that her death had been a gift to
all of us and a wake-up call, to reorient us in our lives and push us where we
needed to go. This had been the purpose
of her life and once she had fulfilled it, she left right on time.
To ask her to come back
would be almost, selfish. Because right now,
she’s still with us, observing us, communicating with us, pushing us
along. But where she is, she’s at peace,
she’s not worried about our mundane problems or tomorrow, she’s not worried
about loss and she’s also hanging out with others who have been there or are
also being called there. And wherever it
is, it’s “amazing,” it’s “beautiful,” the weather’s nice and it's full of children,
who make it just oh so sweet.